How We Love Our Kids Book Review

The 5 Love Styles of Parenting

One Small Change in You ... One Big Change in Your Kids

SUMMARY:  Having problems with your kids?  What if you are the problem and you just can't see it?  How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love.  It's the only parenting book that reveals the unseen forces that shape every interaction with your kids.

• Identify which of the five love styles you have.
• Discover the surprising dynamics that shape your parenting.
• Get rid of your "buttons" so  your kids can't push them.
• Create a close connection with your kids that will last a lifetime.
• Learn the seven gifts every child needs.

     Based on years of research in the area of attachment and bonding, How We Love Our Kids shows parents how to overcome the predictable challenges tha arise out of the five love styles and helps parents cultivate a secure, deep connection with a child of any age.  Retool your reactions and refocus on how you love.  Start today.  Watch your kids flourish and thrive as they receive what was missing in your love.

     Includes four self-assessments and powerful tools to use with children of all ages.

SUMMARY:  Like all parents, I am constantly looking for ways to become a better parent and to help my kids become better adjusted to life.  This book seemed like it could be a tool to help me in my journey.  But, to be honest, this book was difficult for me to read.  Now, it is written in an easy-to-read manner and was filled with information, personal stories and helps.   The difficult part was identifying which parenting style I had.  Since I fit some of the characteristics of a couple of them but didn't fit any completely, I wasn't sure which style to identify with and work on.  In my opinion, a test to help identify which one fits you better (along the lines of a spiritual gifts test or the The Five Love Languages test) would help readers tremendously.  Having difficulty identifying my style made it more difficult to finish the book because I kept wondering what I was missing or needed to work on.  The helps in the back are good but I had lost interest quickly.  Hopefully, this book will work for someone reading this post but it wasn't for me.  I will try to read it again later to see if it can become a useful aid but it will be a while before I do.

This book was provided by Waterbrook Multnomah for review without compensation.

Milan and Kay Yerkovich are parents of four grown children.  Milan is a pastoral counselor and co-host of the radio show, New Life Live! with Stephen Arterburn.  Milan has a master's degree in biblical studies and is the founder of Relationship 180, a ministry that helps leaders build healthy relationships.  Kay has a master's degree in counseling and has specialized in successful bonding between couples, parents, and children for more than twenty years.  They provide resources in these areas at www.howwelove.com.  When they aren't traveling to speak, the Yerkovichs enjoy their grandchildren.